Against The Odds

Moon Chong and his son Matthew

Moon Chong and his son Matthew

My name is Moon Chong.  My wife, Jaclyn & I – we have 3 children, aged 18, 16 & 10. Our youngest one, Matthew was diagnosed with autism when he was 2 years old. We joined the Family Inclusion Network about a year ago.

Matthew was non-verbal till he was about 5 years old. Today, he can, at times be frustrated at not having the language skill & vocabulary to make us understand him. When he goes into a meltdown – intense tantrum – it can last an hour or more. Matthew also has sensory issues with loud noises (eg clapping), dislikes strangers & crowds in enclosed spaces and has a phobia for babies, for reasons we can’t explain.

When he was smaller, going to my in-laws for our weekly extended family dinners, riding in a crowded bus or MRT train, and attending church services were unmanageable. Getting into the lift with a baby inside would end in embarrassing hysterical cries. A visit to the dentist or to the barber was out of the question.

When he was 4 years old, by the grace of God who supplies me with love, patience & wisdom, I was able to quit my job and stay home full-time to help Matthew in his developmental needs – his  emotional, verbal, social & cognitive needs.

Against all odds, Matthew graduated from a special needs preschool to a mainstream primary school. He is now in Primary 3 and while he still has his bad days, he is not coping too badly.

I thank God that in the last 3 years, Matthew has made developmental breakthroughs, one after another. He has learnt to eat with chop-sticks, sit thru a dental cleaning, have his haircut at the barber, learn to say grace at meal-time, pray the Lord’s prayer, fold his own clothes, make his own drinks & ride a bicycle. You can imagine the intense joy we felt, each time he hit one of these milestones.

Matthew still struggles with making friends, displays visibly awkward reactions to his phobias in public and is linguistically not skillful enough to cope fully with schoolwork. But most importantly, we can see that he is happy, feels secured with people around, speaks with self-confidence and is surrounded by love.

Matthew has taught me to be a better parent. His autism has opened doors for me to reach out to other parents. For the past 5 years, I served in his primary school by organizing parenting workshops for other parents & activities for father & child bonding. Together with a few other dads in FIN, we have also initiated a Dads’ network to support one another in our fathering journey.

My continuing prayer for Matthew is that he can grow up to be a responsible man of God – fully functional in society, able to hold down a job, manage his relationships with others & in his own special way, be a blessing to others.

 Family Inclusion Network (FIN) is primarily a network founded by parents and volunteers with a HEART for families of persons with special needs and disabilities.

WHAT'S ON IN COOS

Events on June 20, 2019

7:30 pm: Caregivers-to-Caregivers Education Programme

Details Description: - C2C Programme provides training to caregivers of persons with mental illness. This unique training programme is free of charge. You will be supported through 2.5 hour 12 sessions and be empowered in your caregiving journey. 2 May - 18 July, every Thursday.
Location: Room 217B/305
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Events on June 21, 2019

9:00 am: FIN-SJSM INCLUSIVE ARTS WORKSHOP

Family Inclusion Network (FIN for short) invites you to a 2-Day Inclusive Arts Workshop. Experience Dance, Contemplative Music & Prophetic Art in this Space of Honour. Discover Singapore’s 1st integrated community space where people with different abilities can move independently; where they can feel accepted for who they are, and be valued for their contributions.

Registration has closed. For enquiries, please email fin.every1in@gmail.com
Location: Enabling Village, Singapore
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7:30 pm: Alpha Cycle Two Run [5 of 8 sessions]

Alpha Cycle Two runs for a total of 8 sessions, plus additional two sessions of Holy Spirit Day & Celebration Dinner.
Location: COOS Room 308
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Events on June 22, 2019

9:00 am: FIN-SJSM INCLUSIVE ARTS WORKSHOP

Family Inclusion Network (FIN for short) invites you to a 2-Day Inclusive Arts Workshop. Experience Dance, Contemplative Music & Prophetic Art in this Space of Honour. Discover Singapore’s 1st integrated community space where people with different abilities can move independently; where they can feel accepted for who they are, and be valued for their contributions.

Registration has closed. For enquiries, please email fin.every1in@gmail.com
Location: Enabling Village, Singapore
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2:30 pm: English Service : Ps Lee Seng Yan Speaking

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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4:30 pm: Youth Service

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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Events on June 23, 2019

8:30 am: English Service : Ps Lee Seng Yan Speaking

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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10:45 am: English Service : Ps Lee Seng Yan Speaking

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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Events on June 25, 2019

7:30 pm: Talk on 'Journeying with Persons with Same-Sex Attraction'

How should we engage and respond to those struggling with same-sex attraction and those in the LGBTQ community? How do we balance grace and truth? Gain a better understanding by attending a talk by Choices Ministry on 'Journeying with Persons with Same-Sex Attraction'.
Location: Chapel
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Events on June 26, 2019

3:00 pm: Cafe Oasis cupcake workshop

Anyone and Everyone is welcome to express themselves through food! Come learn how to customise your cupcakes. The workshop will cover basic techniques, 2 cupcakes to decorate and a prize for the best looking cupcake!
Location: Atirum
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Events on June 27, 2019

7:30 pm: Caregivers-to-Caregivers Education Programme

Details Description: - C2C Programme provides training to caregivers of persons with mental illness. This unique training programme is free of charge. You will be supported through 2.5 hour 12 sessions and be empowered in your caregiving journey. 2 May - 18 July, every Thursday.
Location: Room 217B/305
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SERVICE DETAILS

MAIN SERVICES (ENGLISH)
Saturday | 2.30pm
Sunday | 8.30am and 10.45am
YOUTH SERVICE (ENGLISH)
Saturday | 4.30pm
*Except every 1st weekend of the month, where youth joins main services.
SERVICES & OFFICE LOCATION
130 Margaret Drive Singapore 149300
It is a 10-minute walk from the Queenstown MRT Station.The bus-stops nearest to the church are served by
SBS Bus 51, 111, 145, 186, 195 and 32 and TIBS Bus 970.

The office is open from Tuesdays to Saturdays, 9am to 5.30pm.

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