Love & Marriage

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…”

– Ephesians 5:25 –

I marched into marriage on 31 October 2015, armed with the belief that my husband should love me just as Christ did.

Just as Christ did… What a high calling!

The love of Christ for me is immense – He forgave me of all my sin and hypocrisy, and restored me to a place where I was once again able to worship God freely, without the weight of sin standing as a wall between me and God. He walked with me through various heartaches and gave me assurance of His faithfulness. He was patient with my character flaws, and never once condemned me for them, but gently reminded me that I was not to be flippant about changing and becoming a better person. Christ is the epitome of perfect and loving faithfulness to me.

And my husband was not. Or so I thought.

I found myself constantly picking on everything that he did or didn’t do, and measuring it against what I thought the perfect, sensitive, husband and leader of the household should be like. I wondered why he couldn’t always be gentle and kind with his words and actions. I was embittered by his dedication to serving others at work and in church, seeing it as costing me his time and affection. I was fearful that I wouldn’t have enough of his love. That left me constantly grasping for more, and never satisfied.

Of course, this lack of peace in my heart took its toll on us as a newly wedded couple. But I thank the Lord that He saw us through that, and used that season to mature my perspectives.

I learnt that I needed to trust that my husband loved me, just that he didn’t always love me in exactly the way I wanted to be loved. I learnt to give him the benefit of the doubt that his intentions were good, instead of being prejudiced and suspicious of him.

I learnt that whatever ideals I had of marriage needed to negotiated between the two of us, not just insisted upon and imposed on the other. I needed to bear in mind that if I believed in, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…”, then I should also believe in, “Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22).

Finally, I learnt to not make my husband’s love an idol, but to be satisfied in God’s love so that I wouldn’t substitute my husband’s love for God’s.

This first year of marriage has not been the easiest, but it has been a place of great encounter with God.

If the flapping of a butterfly’s wings a few weeks earlier can alter the formation and trajectory of a hurricane, Charlene who finds joy in being a special needs teacher, hopes to flex the power of writing to make a difference in the lives of readers.

WHAT'S ON IN COOS

Events on June 20, 2019

7:30 pm: Caregivers-to-Caregivers Education Programme

Details Description: - C2C Programme provides training to caregivers of persons with mental illness. This unique training programme is free of charge. You will be supported through 2.5 hour 12 sessions and be empowered in your caregiving journey. 2 May - 18 July, every Thursday.
Location: Room 217B/305
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Events on June 21, 2019

9:00 am: FIN-SJSM INCLUSIVE ARTS WORKSHOP

Family Inclusion Network (FIN for short) invites you to a 2-Day Inclusive Arts Workshop. Experience Dance, Contemplative Music & Prophetic Art in this Space of Honour. Discover Singapore’s 1st integrated community space where people with different abilities can move independently; where they can feel accepted for who they are, and be valued for their contributions.

Registration has closed. For enquiries, please email fin.every1in@gmail.com
Location: Enabling Village, Singapore
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7:30 pm: Alpha Cycle Two Run [5 of 8 sessions]

Alpha Cycle Two runs for a total of 8 sessions, plus additional two sessions of Holy Spirit Day & Celebration Dinner.
Location: COOS Room 308
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Events on June 22, 2019

9:00 am: FIN-SJSM INCLUSIVE ARTS WORKSHOP

Family Inclusion Network (FIN for short) invites you to a 2-Day Inclusive Arts Workshop. Experience Dance, Contemplative Music & Prophetic Art in this Space of Honour. Discover Singapore’s 1st integrated community space where people with different abilities can move independently; where they can feel accepted for who they are, and be valued for their contributions.

Registration has closed. For enquiries, please email fin.every1in@gmail.com
Location: Enabling Village, Singapore
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2:30 pm: English Service : Ps Lee Seng Yan Speaking

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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4:30 pm: Youth Service

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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Events on June 23, 2019

8:30 am: English Service : Ps Lee Seng Yan Speaking

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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10:45 am: English Service : Ps Lee Seng Yan Speaking

Location: 130 Margaret Dr, Singapore 149300
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Events on June 25, 2019

7:30 pm: Talk on 'Journeying with Persons with Same-Sex Attraction'

How should we engage and respond to those struggling with same-sex attraction and those in the LGBTQ community? How do we balance grace and truth? Gain a better understanding by attending a talk by Choices Ministry on 'Journeying with Persons with Same-Sex Attraction'.
Location: Chapel
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Events on June 26, 2019

3:00 pm: Cafe Oasis cupcake workshop

Anyone and Everyone is welcome to express themselves through food! Come learn how to customise your cupcakes. The workshop will cover basic techniques, 2 cupcakes to decorate and a prize for the best looking cupcake!
Location: Atirum
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Events on June 27, 2019

7:30 pm: Caregivers-to-Caregivers Education Programme

Details Description: - C2C Programme provides training to caregivers of persons with mental illness. This unique training programme is free of charge. You will be supported through 2.5 hour 12 sessions and be empowered in your caregiving journey. 2 May - 18 July, every Thursday.
Location: Room 217B/305
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SERVICE DETAILS

MAIN SERVICES (ENGLISH)
Saturday | 2.30pm
Sunday | 8.30am and 10.45am
YOUTH SERVICE (ENGLISH)
Saturday | 4.30pm
*Except every 1st weekend of the month, where youth joins main services.
SERVICES & OFFICE LOCATION
130 Margaret Drive Singapore 149300
It is a 10-minute walk from the Queenstown MRT Station.The bus-stops nearest to the church are served by
SBS Bus 51, 111, 145, 186, 195 and 32 and TIBS Bus 970.

The office is open from Tuesdays to Saturdays, 9am to 5.30pm.

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